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Some Reasons I Love F/F Romance

A million years ago, I read Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women: Romance Writers on the Appeal of the Romance, and something Jayne Ann Krentz wrote really stuck with me: that readers of romance identify with the hero and project their emotions onto him as he goes through his journey to love (I paraphrase). And I was like: “Huh. That is not my experience at all. I am not that interested in the interior life of the hero, except perhaps as a projection of exploring the desires of the women who read and write about them.” I have always been more interested in the journey of the heroine. 

Imagine my joy, then, when I started reading F/F romance. Here were stories that focused exclusively on female desire, without the distraction of alpha males, opaque males, emotionally constipated males, constipated opaque alpha males, etc etc etc. 

Erin wrote a great post last week that talked about her love for M/M romances, and some of that’s true for F/F romances as well: characters tend to not fall into (or focus exclusively breaking out of) traditional gender roles, and some of the tropey behavior that you see in M/F romance falls by the wayside. 

Here are some other reasons I love F/F romance:

  1. I will never come across the phrase “steel wrapped in velvet.”
    See: every M/F historical romance ever written. 
  2. The power dynamics between the protagonists is more fluid – especially in historical romances, where, to maintain any semblance of historical accuracy, the characters have to grapple with the fact that a married woman, by law, is under the control of her husband.
    See: The Lady’s Guide to Celestial Mechanics, Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure, She Whom I Love
  3. There are twice as many opportunities for fabulous outfits. I hate shopping, but love reading about clothes. Romance authors rarely give their heroes interesting outfits. Which is sad, because we can learn a lot about a character by how they present themselves to the world.
    See: Once Ghosted, Twice Shy
  4. I might be falling into stereotypes here (I totally am), but when characters talk about their conflict and emotions in open and honest ways, I don’t have to be all shocked about a dude processing his feelings like an adult.
    See: Being Hospitable
  5. Sexuality is a spectrum. I am mostly heterosexual, but I would not put myself at 100% all penis all the time. So reading F/F romance gives me a safe space to explore other fantasies. (Sorry, Mom, if that was Too Much Information. That’s what you get for reading my smut blog so faithfully!)
Recommended Read, Review

Review: Take a Hint, Dani Brown by Talia Hibbert (2020)

The Brown Sisters, Book 2

Review of The Brown Sisters, Book 1

Heat Factor: Unapologetically sexy

Character Chemistry: Zaf is a book boyfriend. 

Plot: Friends → Fake Relationship → Boning → Meltdown

Overall: This book made me melt.

Continue reading “Review: Take a Hint, Dani Brown by Talia Hibbert (2020)”

Saturday Smutty Six: Ace Romance on Erin’s TBR

It’s easy to find romance including women loving women, and it’s super easy to find romance including men loving men. It’s even pretty easy to find throuple romance that’s not exclusively about tittilating sex. But it’s not always so easy to find romance, especially Own Voices romance, featuring stories about all those other letters we see in our Pride hashtags. 

In my ongoing quest to read everything, I made myself some special shelves on my Goodreads list to help me focus. This week, let’s talk about ace (that’s asexual, but if you’re looking at the spectrum more broadly, we can also encompass gray, demisexual and aromantic) romance I’m excited about (which is in no way comprehensive, but it’s the Saturday Smutty Six, not the Saturday Smutty Everything-on-my-list). 

Titles link to the book’s Amazon page. 

Havesskadi by Ava Kelly

There be dragons in this fantasy romance. One protagonist has his dragon magic stolen (gasp!), and he must roam the earth as a mortal, seeking to recover it. And he’s mind-linked to the other protagonist, but they don’t know when they find each other!!! Sounds epic. Bonus points: The author is non-binary and asexual, so this is an own voices story.

The Rat-Catcher’s Daughter by K.J. Charles

I think K.J. Charles might be a genius. At the very least, her writing is incredibly tight. This short story is a Lilywhite Boys prequel, so you’ll be able to engage with these characters a bit more if you continue the series. I like to see trans and ace representation in historical romance, so I’m going to keep track of any I find and add it to my TBR. 

Fireland: Jimmy Loves Rob by Sam Burke

Historical romance in an unusual period: the 1970s. It sounds super angsty, since one protagonist is married with children and can’t figure out why he doesn’t like sex, and the other is gay in 1970s America, and it occurs over the course of a decade. I’m super intrigued. 

Human Enough by E.S. Yu

Please find enclosed a M/M pairing with a vampire and a vampire hunter in a non-linear timeline. The vampire hunter is autistic,  and the vampire is asexual, and together they find love and solve some shady mystery shenanigans. Bonus points: This fantasy story includes Asian protagonists and is written by an Asian author.

Rising from Ash by Jax Meyer

I was probably drawn to this book initially because my children are currently obsessed with a book about an Antarctic research station, but, I mean, it’s a forced proximity, enemies to lovers slow burn set at the South Pole, so… Aren’t you also interested? Plus, I do love an awkward scientist. Bonus points: This author is lesbian and neurodivergent. We’re on a roll with own voices stories in this list, amiright?

Upside Down by N.R. Walker

In an unexpected twist, Upside Down features not one, but two ace protagonists! And one of them is a librarian! While one protagonist is exploring his new understanding of his asexual label, the other is helping him to do it. Sounds utterly charming, doesn’t it? I bet it’ll get me right in the feels.

Please let me know if there are any ace romances you’re excited about, as I’m constantly updating my TBR, and I’ve already blown through my 2020 reading goal, so I need all the books. 

Recommended Read, Review

Anthology Review: The Brightest Day: A Juneteenth Historical Romance Anthology (2015)

Heat Factor: Hot, tender, touching, strong, hopeful

Character Chemistry: All four couples have undeniable and complicated chemistry.

Plot: Four stories of love and hope entwined with Juneteenth–each story set in a slightly different time period, each story SO historically and emotionally vivid.

Overall: This is an absolutely phenomenal MUST read — it’s going to hit you right in the “feels” and stay there.

Continue reading “Anthology Review: The Brightest Day: A Juneteenth Historical Romance Anthology (2015)”
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Some Reasons I Love M/M Romance

While I have come to enjoy all of the many and varied LGBTQIA+ romance stories I’ve sought out since I shed my self-imposed romance reading boundaries, I tend to gravitate often to romance featuring men loving men. Given the vast quantity of publications featuring all kinds of other pairings, I confess I have a long way to go in terms of what I would consider a suitable representative sample of the subgenre, from stories featuring Ace characters to trans characters to M/F pairings with one or more queer protagonist. LGBTQIA+ romance is much more than M/M or F/F or the various combinations of throuple. I acknowledge that right up front. We all have to start somewhere, I guess.

Anyway, I expect I’m drawn more to M/M romance than to F/F romance because typically in M/F romance I tend to zero in on the hero’s emotional journey. I’m sure this has to do with the acculturation that I’ve experienced, and it might not be great, but we can unpack that another day. The point is, I like heroes in general, but here are some specific points that also draw me to read M/M romance:

  1. We can throw gender roles out the window. This is true of any same-sex pairing, I suppose, and is not specific to M/M. I don’t need to spend brain energy on whether the author is feeding into traditional gender roles or flipping them on their head. Who’s older? Who’s taller? Who’s the breadwinner? Who’s cooking and cleaning? Who’s driving? Doesn’t matter! I’m not emotionally invested in any of that one way or the other. Yes, there are some aspects of the subculture that come into play, but they’re not something that’s been implanted into my brain as either “normal” or “something to fight” for my whole life, so I don’t have an internalized, predetermined reaction to them when I see them on the page. 
  1. M/M romance tends to circumvent many standard hero behaviors and tropes. When I reviewed my reading to identify heroes with domineering behaviors, I found that, in most of the M/M books I read, neither of the partners exhibited much domineering hero behavior. Of course, this isn’t always the case – the Arden St. Ives trilogy is definitely a billionaire romance (with some extra emotional oomph), for example – but if you’re tired of heroes who are constantly swaggering, M/M romance can totally work for you. On the other hand, if you’re tired of heroes being called cinnamon rolls just for treating a woman with basic consideration, that also tends not to be a problem in these books. 
  1. There aren’t heroines fighting things. I don’t waste energy, annoyed by yet another heroine who demonstrates she’s different and feminist and special by being terrible at needlework and music. Or a heroine who felt like she needed to focus on her career and sideline love to be successful. You know what? I love needlework, and I’m good at it. I married my high school sweetheart and also built a successful career that was not secondary to my spouse’s. I get that many women feel social pressure to get life right and be strong and independent, but I don’t feel seen when the majority of heroines are written to represent these things in a very specific way. And once I feel like it’s the default, I can’t get into the “seeing a different perspective” headspace either. I need to leave all that behind sometimes. 
  1. If I’m paying attention, and I choose Own Voices books (in this case, M/M books written by men who engage in M/M relationships) – which I try to do – I get to read a perspective and a life that I’m completely incapable of experiencing. It’s not the same as reading non-fiction or attending lectures or the like, but it’s something that can make me think about a life experience different than my own, and it’s something that can be a springboard for me to learn about things I never knew about before. And, because it’s romance, I don’t have to worry about being miserable at the end.

Anyway, I say all this with the understanding that there’s an ongoing conversation about who is writing and consuming M/M romance, and it’s important to understand how M/M romance is fetishized. It’s definitely something to be conscious of, so if you want to dip your toe in and test the waters, make sure you’re looking for a book that doesn’t promote erasure by simply catering to cis/het/white lady homoerotic fantasies. There are some women who write beautiful, thoughtful M/M romance (look at Holly gushing about K.J. Charles, for example), but since I started delving into this sub-genre, I have found many Own Voices authors who shouldn’t be sidelined by (cis/het) women appropriating their stories. When we focus on who is telling the story, and what story that author is trying to tell and to whom, we can weed out some of the clutter and find beautiful, uplifting love stories that readily stand on their own merits.